Boy-Girl-Friendship.

Some friend's are priceless. And those are truly friends, those who don't expect nothing, those who create special moments not to impress or make you happy, but because they are happy, and they like to share unforgettable moments with you in order to make you last forever. Special friends are those who you share sweet memories, those who think you are awesome just because you're who you are. Those that do not judge, do not talk on your back, those who do not play games, who do not think the world turns around'em, those who know people don't belong to each other, and instead of holding you back, encourage you to fly and let you go on your own, when necessary.. Not because its easy to be apart, but because they believe in you, and because they know distance won;t change a dam thing between you two. Those who want you to be happy, and understand freedom is necessary. They might get protective, but they ain't jealous, they might get annoying, but they respect your space, they might get boring, but silence with them is comfortable. They might have plenty of flaws, but they never let you down, they never make you cry, they never do bulshit. Those who do listen to you, when you complain, and instead of yelling back, hear and think. They know they can't change you, and you know you can't change them, but that wouldn't be necessary, because anything they do that makes you feel bad, will never happened again.
Some people say, its easy to mess up friendship with love. This is not the point people WAKE UP! Love comes after friendship, love doesn't bloom all of the sudden. It comes with time, with trust.. same ingredients of friendship, because LOVE exists in friendships. What people do not understand is that, its a different love. Love won't come with pressure, love happens naturally, it comes to both hearts at once. You will not conquer someone's heart with better attitudes, with love declarations, music, flirting, exceptional attention.... you will get someone to fall in love with you, when you become yourself. Maybe this person won;t love you the same way you do, but at least she loves you back.
In my point of view, i felt in love once, for a best friend. And that wasn't because he said he loved me, and put pressure on me to love him back. because thats what people do... they make you trust them, they watch you're back, and hold you whenever you need, not because they are truly your friends, but because they love you. and that's the biggest mistake buddy... I felt in love because I could trust him, heart and soul, because I knew he would be there to me, no matter what happened. i knew he would do everything he could, to protect me, and to get me safe, to help me and to avoid me crying. And no one needed to say anything to each other. because it hit us, together. at the right time, at the right moment, we both felt the same. It took us one look, different from all the others, to realize we were in love. And that was it. it my not have worked out as we expected, but it happened in a natural way. And it became an unforgettable moment. A sweet memory. And do you know, how people say that, in order to get a  stable building built, you must have a strong base? We did. We had the strongest friendship, and even though we were apart, we still make each other laugh now a days... He was a penguin, love that will last forever.

Im not saying I will fall in love with every best friend that does that. Because in order to make that happen, it takes more than a formula, or secrets. It has no formulas, or secrets. it just happens. And i wish people would stop believing this stupid hollywood movies, and pretending they are friends with the person they are interested in, just in order to have a happy ending.. cuz thats what always happens in the movies... movies, are about 1 hour dude! your life is much more than that. this is real life! in real life people have to understand that the story is much more important then the ending itself. Its all those sweet memories that you'll take with you whenever you die. Were you sincere? were you truly in love? were you honest with yourself, with your feelings? Or were you just playing games in vague, waiting for a prince charming, or a victoria secret model to come knock on your door. Did you fall for the inside, or for the outside of people? Did you have a stable base for any relationship you consider valuable? Or it was just all in a rush, because you couldn't waste time? Everyone is in such a rush to find their soul mates. everyone is so afraid of being alone.. A tinny attraction is enough for most of people, and that's just sad. If everyone was sincere, if everyone didn't care about their image, about what people think, then maybe it would be more clear and easier to relate to people.
I just wish people would invest, I mean truly, invest on real people, on real relationships, on real friendships. I wish people would be able to find true best friends more often, that people could trust people, instead of being worried about what do they owe'em back, because of the favors they've got. Friendship is not an exchange, its a way of love. i wish people would accept that, and let it happen. Maybe, yes, fall in love, but reminding that love must be good to both parts, and if it doesn't it means you're pursuing the wrong type of love with the person you think you're in love with. Maybe is not the right time, maybe there has not been enough time, and maybe it will just never happen. People say its confusing because they don't get the time to get to know the other person, because if they did, if they truly did, they would know exactly what to expect, and how to analyze their reaction. not because a book or a friend told you that's how men or women behave, but because you truly know that person, because you truly know who you're dealing with. When you love, you don't see anything as a "me" factor, you start to see every little look, conversation, and touch with a "we" factor.Its not about what you want, what you've planned.. its about what you two want, about what you two could plan together. And when true love happens, there no need to even talk about it, because you truly know each other, you would realize it if you both felt in love, with maybe just one look, one touch, one word. I wish people realized that, in order to find the perfect match, they must BE that perfect person.
I guess people are afraid, of loosing people, of trying, of letting it go. But the biggest mistake now a days, is to truly get to know someone. Because in order to do that, you must know yourself, and being yourself today, apparently, is scary.
Who are you? What do you want? When was the last time you did something for the first time? With who can you talk about every dam thing without worrying and getting drunk? What, or who has the power to make you smile? What was the last dumb thing you've done? Where do you wanna live? What do you want to do?
"who do you want by your side?" - the most difficult question ever. i don't want you to say a name out loud, i want you to describe what kind of person would be right to share your happiness with. forget about your crush, boyfriend, flirt or fuck buddy even... if your description at the end does not match with what you just described, you're in the wrong way. And if the person you're pursuing, without receiving an answer has all the qualities you just mentioned... then well, is either:
1. you were actually thinking of this person and not of the qualities you truly seek in someone.
2. you must realize she/he is not the only person on earth that will have those qualities.

Just remember: People have the relationship they want. Nobody forces you to love someone, nobody forces you to suffer. And nobody can force you to pursue happiness. You do exactly as you please, once you're the only one that has control of your life.